Tuesday, September 11, 2012

“Fortifying the Family” Series, Week Two: Passing it on as Parents

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The fifteenth sunday after pentecost

Shepherd of the Hills Ev. Lutheran Church (WELS)

Deuteronomy 4:1,2,6-9

Now, Israel, hear the decrees and laws I am about to teach you. Follow them so that you may live and may go in and take possession of the land the Lord, the God of your ancestors, is giving you. Do not add to what I command you and do not subtract from it, but keep the commands of the Lord your God that I give you.Observe them carefully, for this will show your wisdom and understanding to the nations, who will hear about all these decrees and say, “Surely this great nation is a wise and understanding people.” What other nation is so great as to have their gods near them the way the Lord our God is near us whenever we pray to him? And what other nation is so great as to have such righteous decrees and laws as this body of laws I am setting before you today? Only be careful, and watch yourselves closely so that you do not forget the things your eyes have seen or let them fade from your heart as long as you live. Teach them to your children and to their children after them. (NIV)

It’s no secret how casinos make so much money: they simply offer games in which the odds are heavily in their favor.  Yet even though the average person walking into a casino is much more likely to walk out with less money than when he walked in, people – lots of people – still go, don’t they?  Most rational thinking goes out the window as the gambler entertains the possibility of what could be.  So a person hoping to make money in a casino tries to turn things in his favor by playing the odds against the casino.  Maybe he plays poker because he reasons that he doesn’t compete against the house, but against other players, so if he is more skilled than they are in the game, his chances of winning are better.  Or he counts cards in blackjack to improve his odds.  Or he reasons that certain bets at the craps table give him the best chance at walking out of the casino with money. 

Now all of these strategies may prove true.  Certain games and certain strategies may present a person with a little bit better odds.  However, the odds still remain in the casino’s favor, don’t they?  There’s always a chance being taken; always a risk.  It isn’t a matter of finding a game where the odds are actually in your favor – no casino would sensibly offer such a game.  No, the odds are in their favor so that you’re the one taking the risk.  As much as a person thinks he’s increasing his chances at winning, the reality is that all he’s doing is decreasing his chances of losing as much. So how much sense does it really make for a person to think he’s going to win at gambling?  Any way you look at it, it is always a risk to gamble.

Yet we do it as parents, don’t we?  We knowingly gamble with our children’s spiritual welfare.  We know that the best chance our children have at winning spiritually is through a steady diet of the Word.  That’s not up for debate or negotiation.  So why do we take a chance, why do we take such risks by being OK with the Word having a limited place in our children’s lives?  No, there is no page in Scripture that demands that an education in a Christian elementary or high school, or daily devotions, or weekly worship, or personal Bible study are all necessary for heaven.  But with the odds so stacked so heavily against us and in Satan’s favor, why would we not do everything possible to level the playing field, or to give our children an advantage?  Why would we not devour every opportunity possible for ourselves and for our children?  Why would we be willing to take such a big gamble?

No, there’s no guarantee that a person can’t fall away; that’s always a possibility.  Yet, does that make it reasonable to conclude that because there’s no such guarantee, that we don’t want to give our children the best shot they can possibly have by being in and remaining in the Lord?  Of course not.  The patient who’s just been diagnosed with cancer is provided with a number of options for treatment, even though his doctor says there is not guarantee that any of them will work.  Will that patient say no thanks to surgery, chemotherapy, radiation, or any other possible treatment simply on the basis that there’s no guarantee that they’ll work?  Of course not!  Most people wouldn’t think twice about trying every single possible treatment available, if there’s a chance it might help. 

Well guess what?  There’s more than a chance that things like Sunday school and the Sacrament, Bible study and CLHS, MLS, or LPS will prove beneficial, because the Word is always beneficial.  We’re not ashamed of it, for as Paul said, “it is the power of God for the salvation of all who believe” (Romans 1:16).  Increasing your odds at gambling might work.  Cancer treatment can work.  But God’s Word always works.

Parents, in order to pass it on, that Word must first do its work on you.  One of the most often overlooked needs that you have in parenting your children is your own spiritual health.  It starts with you.  If we are going to be committed to Passing it on as Parents in order to fortify our families, then it must start with mom and dad.  Parents, listen carefully: you cannot fill your child’s cup from an empty pitcher.  Your pitcher must first be filled and remain filled constantly in order for you to be able to pour out anything of substance to your children. 

Skim briefly through the words from Deuteronomy once again and note the number of ways that parents can fill up their pitchers:  “Hear… Follow… Do not add… do not subtract… keep… Observe…be careful… watch.”  “Hear” God’s Word, not the way we have the game or talk show on in the back ground when trying to multi-task, but hear it the way you hear the exciting news from your out-of-breath ecstatic child who cannot wait to share something big with mom or dad.  “Follow” God’s laws and decrees, not the way you casually follow a blogger or the occasional Tweet from someone, but the way you follow a guiding light in otherwise pitch black darkness, not stepping to one side or the other, but with supreme focus.  “Do not add/subtract” from God’s commands, for he wants to be sure your pitcher is filled up with the content of his Word, not the concoction of your own thoughts or opinions.  “Be careful” with God’s Word, not ever overestimating that your pitcher is filled to the brim, when in reality it may be running on empty.

Did you catch what God promised to his chosen people if they showed such regard for his Word?  He said, “Follow them so that you may live and may go in and take possession of the land that the LORD, the God of your fathers is giving you” (v.1).  Is that to say that if the Israelites had not obeyed, that God would never have given them the promised land?  In a sense, yes.  Remember that God had established his two-way covenant with his special people.  So long as they remained faithful to God and his commands, God would remain faithful to them and bless them.  For even though God did deliver them into the promised land, we ultimately know from history what resulted when they blatantly disregarded his will for them: they were ripped out of the promised land and taken away into captivity.  In addition, if they had kept God’s commands faithfully, they never would have intermarried and given into idolatry after being influenced by the surrounding nations.  So God held out the promise of richly blessed lives in the promised land if they had kept his Word close to their hearts.

God promises his blessings to those who today keep his Word close to their hearts. Those blessings stem from the forgiveness won for us by Jesus.  Failing our children and broken promises; destructive addictions and deceptive lies; greed, lust, and all the other sins that fill us with guilt and regret – they all meet their match at the cross, where they’ve all been paid for in full.  Lives close to God’s Word are close to his forgiveness, and the blessing of peace naturally follows.  Lives close to God’s Word are filled with love from God and love for God.  Lives close to God’s Word are close to God, and a personal relationship with God through Christ means incomparable blessings that just can’t be discovered apart from him.

The added benefit in this order of things is that as they see God’s blessings in their lives that flow from hearing, following, keeping, observing, etc. God’s Word, then parents will be all the more likely to want to pass those blessings on to the next generation, which is exactly what we’re called to do.  About all the things that God had done for his people in the past, Moses encouraged parents, “Teach them to your children and to their children after them” (v.9b).  Remind children of how God graciously established the people of Israel through Abraham and the patriarchs.  Tell them of how God blessed both his own people and other nations through Joseph’s leadership in Egypt.  Don’t let them forget how bad things had gotten in Egypt, and that the LORD God had delivered them from it all and ushered his people into the promised land.

Parents, God’s exhortation to you is no different today.  Teach your children what he’s done.  Yes, that includes Old Testament history as well as new.  It includes the stories of patience and compassion that characterize God’s treatment of his people throughout history.  But it also includes what God has done for us personally through Jesus Christ.  In fact, more than anything else, the message of Jesus is what we are to pass on as parents.  We teach our children about his suffering and about his cross.  We teach our children about the Resurrection and Jesus’ rule in heaven for our good.  We teach about how Jesus connected our children to all of that through their baptism.  We teach our children to look forward to and to yearn for the Lord’s Supper.  We teach our children that all the Christian’s life is one of willing and compassionate service for others.  We teach our children that in Christ, life cannot be better.

We teach them by living it.  Let them see it.  We teach them by letting them see how important these things are to us as we take seriously Jesus’ invitation to worship him every week.  We teach them by letting them see mom and dad reading the Bible and praying.  We teach them by letting them see examples of selfless service in their parents. We teach them by living it.

And we teach them by telling it.  Let them hear it.  We teach them by letting them hear from our lips of God’s grace and forgiveness for them.  We teach them by letting them hear us confess our wrongs to others and pronounce forgiveness when wronged ourselves.  We teach them by letting them hear our ongoing encouragement for them always to keep their faith at the forefront of lives responsibilities. We teach them by letting them hear of Jesus’ love for them and his promise of eternal life for all who are faithful to the point of death.  We teach them by telling it.

If we are to fortify our families by passing it on as parents, then this is not the place to gamble.  Your child’s eternity is absolutely  not worth the risk. Fill your own heart and soul with Jesus and his life and death for you, then you’ll have something to teach your children.  Then you’ll have exactly what you need to pass it on as parents: Jesus.  Amen.

“For the freer confidence is from one’s own works, and the more exclusively it is directed toward Christ alone, so much better is the Christian it makes.” (Luther)

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